Lainey Bouvier

Lainey Bouvier is a founding vice president of the Diversity Leadership Project chapter at Franklin High School in Franklin, Tennessee. She is on the school’s shooting team, the Rebel Clays, and is ranked 50th in the nation for junior varsity women’s trap shooting. She has attended the Summer Institute for the Gifted at both Princeton and Yale as well the IDTech camp at MIT, where was one of five girls in a cohort of over 100 boys. She enjoys reading fantasy books and drawing. Lainey has a little sister who she enjoys hanging out with, and who supports her in every way.

My Glimmer of Hope

by Lainey Bouvier

Editors note: September is Suicide Prevention Month and we are exploring how suicide affects our lives and what we can do as students to prevent suicide among our peers. 


Silence is everywhere. What did you just say? I laugh a little, this is a joke. Right? No. I know it’s not, with a single solemn glance from my father. I take a breath, sadness overwhelms me, I take another, no don’t do it, don’t cry, don’t cry, but the tears come anyway. Memories flood my brain. Moments in time that will never be had again.


My father tells me my 14-year-old cousin has “passed away” last night. He didn’t tell me right away how, and no one knows why, my closest cousin decided to end his life, but he did. Something was so wrong that he figured that it was his only way out… He figured that was all he could do.

But there are other options, other ways, other things to do. Death is the end, but as long as you’re alive, things can work out. But many people, such as my cousin don’t or did not understand this.

I propose that through Diversity Leadership Project, we explore the option of communication. I want to open the door to the possibility that through nonviolent communication we, as a club, and as individuals, can help ourselves, and our friends learn how to talk to each other. Help the bullies realize that there is another way of expressing themselves. I want to make a place where even the quietest voices can be heard by all. And for the ones that are being bullied, I want to offer them hope, and the strength to realize that all the anger and hate is truly not directed to them, and that people are always going to hate, so you shouldn’t worry about it.

All we need to do is take it slow, and enjoy tomorrow.

We have a responsibility to our friends and family to look for a solution, and we all have a responsibility to look after ourselves, because our life is not just our own. Your family, your friends, everyone worked together to make it what it is today. This change is not going to happen overnight and it’s not going to happen easily, but someone’s got to say something, someone’s got to do something, and why not you?



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Mix It Up Day in the Cafeteria

by Lainey Bouvier
Sophomore, Franklin High School, International Baccalaureate
Franklin, TN


When you enter the lunchroom at my high school, Franklin High School, you look around at the different tables. At each table there are people you see in the hallway, people you have met, and people you have never seen before. In the halls, it is even worse.

There are people on the stairs, on the benches, in close circles, in large ovals, and just lounging on the floor. There are people sitting in lines against the wall, and people sitting alone. There are people everywhere. People that you don’t know – that you don’t know anything about. You take your seat among your peers, in the spot they left for you.

Then, one day, someone else takes that spot. What do you do now? You’re going to have to find somewhere else to sit. But you don’t know any of these people. You sit down anyway, next to new people who look friendly, and you talk to them. You sit there the next day, and the next. You learn more about these people. The more you talk, the more you learn what they like, what they do, and who they are. These people you had never seen just a few weeks before become trusted friends.

With Mix-It-Up Day, we can create this type of situation on a wider scale. It can affect every student throughout the school. Mix-It-Up Day asks students to sit in a different place than they usually do, with different people than they usually do. The concept is simple, but the payoff is huge. The goal of this is to meet more people, and learn more about people than you would have otherwise.

According to studies, this simple act increases social and emotional intelligence, as well as helps to grow empathy in children, tweens and teens. The Southern Poverty Law Center writes: “By breaking out of their comfort zones to get to know someone new, students are much more able to see each other as individuals and not just members of separate groups … These positive interactions among students can help reduce prejudice, stereotypes and bullying.”

When a student does not have empathy for another group of people, they can make judgements and misunderstand the other group. This usually happens when students do not know anything about the other group, except perhaps what their friends tell them. By sitting together and learning about other people – and what they like, believe, or do – can help to alleviate many of those misunderstandings.

There will be people who will resist this idea, of course. They will say it is stupid or that it will not work. However, according to Psychologist Karen Young, “sometimes, children might be driven to reject for no other reason than to strengthen their own sense of belonging within a group. Children consider other children to be ‘in’ or ‘out’ based on that child’s choices or what he or she enjoys.”

Through sitting with another person, you will learn what they enjoy and this may encourage you to try new things. You may even find yourself enjoying it as well. But, even if you do not end up with something else you enjoy, you will end up with an understanding of another person, and another person who has a deeper understanding of you.

At Franklin High School, Diversity Leadership Project will sponsor a monthly Mix It Up Day, a day for everyone to sit down in other places when they eat. We will have signs posted all over the school, encouraging other students to do the same. We also plan to have a table where students can write down who they met, and one thing they learned about that person. They might receive a coupon for a fast food sandwich or another small incentive for their participation.

As the Southern Poverty Law Center reminds us, “Mix It Up Day can be an eye-opening event for students as they realize just how much they have in common with their classmates and how wonderful their differences can be.”


For more information, here are a few websites I referenced in my research: